Sadly Ever After: Three Books to Tear Into

by Laura on 02/03/2010 · 12 comments

Guest post by Frank Mundo. You can follow Frank on Twitter or visit his site at Examiner.com.

My wife says that I only like to read sad books. She says that, when we go to the bookstore and she reads the summaries on the backs of the books that I just bought, she can tell right away if I’m going to like them or not, long before I even read them. And she’s usually right, too. At least, she’s right about whether or not I’ll end up liking them.

But just because she’s right doesn’t mean that I only like to read sad books. If fact. I think her books are way sadder than mine. She likes crime fiction mainly, those authors with long series of books based on some sort of theme, like the alphabet, colors or numbers. She likes One for Evanovich and G is for Grafton the most. She likes Patricia Cornwell, too, but lately she’s been more into Karen Slaughter, who’s like Cornwell’s way darker and way edgier and way sadder little sister.

These books are more than just crime fiction, sure. I get it. They’re about tough women, funny women, strong women, who, as the bodies and horrid images of mutilation and murder pile up, always seem to get their “man” in the end. Again and again. Book after book.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a book snob.

I love a good potboiler. In fact, Raymond Chandler, Dashiell Hammett, Cornell Woolrich and, more recently, Walter Mosley are some of my favorite writers of all time, and I consider their books classics, the kind of books I turn to again and again, book after book, to admire their craft.

But sometimes when I read, most of the time, I guess, I want more than just entertainment, and more than just great writing or great storytelling. I want experience. I want to plunge myself into the world of someone else and to walk in their shoes for a few days. And those long series of happy-ending books just don’t do it for me.

You see, I love to read. And I consider myself a good reader, an empathetic reader, the best kind! It’s not just a hobby or a pastime for me. It’s a huge part of life, of who I am. It’s why, for the last decade or so, I’ve continued to write about books and writers even though I’ve made very little money at it. It’s why I suffered through the odd stares and raised eyebrows I got whenever people found out that I worked two jobs, 65 hours a week, just to pay for my college tuition as an English major.

But, to settle the debate, my wife and I have agreed to leave it in your hands.

Below you will find three books that I’ve recently read and extremely enjoyed that my wife says proves that I only like to read sad books. The books are all very different from one another. One is from 1970, one from 1996 and one is from 2005. Two of the books are fiction and one is a memoir – and each book’s protagonist is extremely different.

All of the books, however, have three things in common.

1) They are all coming-of-age stories

2) Each of the main characters face very challenging circumstances

3) I will never forget these incredible people. They’ve each managed to join forces with the hundreds of sad Holden Caulfields and lonely Arturo Bandinis who live joyfully forever in my memories.

I’m not going to review them any further or continue to persuade you to the dark and sad side. If you choose to participate in this debate, however, (whether you’ve already read these books or not) I only ask that you report back here and share what you think about these works. Am I just a sad sap reader, or is there more to these works than what wells up the eyes? I leave it in your hands…Happy reading!

1)      Push by Sapphire

2)      The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls

3)      The Greatest Thing That Almost Happened by Don Robertson

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Emma February 3, 2010 at 11:15 AM

I loved The Glass Castle! While the author certainly had a difficult (and somewhat strange) childhood, I don’t recall the book being overwhelmingly sad. She is a tremendous storyteller!

I haven’t read the other two, but I did see Precious, and I guess I had a similar impression of that–very sad theme throughout, but the heroine is so brave and likeable that I just thoroughly enjoyed the story nonetheless.
.-= Emma´s last blog ..Who I Would Miss =-.

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Frank February 3, 2010 at 12:49 PM

Thanks, Emma,
Well said. These characters aren’t about sadness to me, they’re about hope, despite the sadness they face.
Thanks for sharing.
Frank

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Lisa Frank February 3, 2010 at 1:50 PM

I don’t see these as dark and sad stories – I see them as reflections on real life. I’m with you, the books I treasure are those that are filled with experience and have the ability to transport me to another time and place or into another character’s mindset. I will pick up a more mainstream or chick lit book from time to time, but I am always drawn to those stories that show a character’s ability (or inability) to cope with the challenges in life.

A few others you may enjoy:
Those Who Save Us by Jenna Blum
Shutter Island by Dennis Lehane
Girls of a Tender Age by Mary-Ann Tirone Smith

Definitely plan to follow your posts after this guest appearance – I have writer’s envy at how eloquently you write!

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Frank February 3, 2010 at 2:46 PM

Lisa,
Wow. Thank you so much. How nice! I really appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts, your recommendations — and your kind words. I haven’t read those books yet…but I’ll definitely have to check them out on the next trip to the bookstore. I do have a couple of other guest posts on TJCC from last year, if you want to check them out. Thanks again!
Frank

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Laura Cococcia February 3, 2010 at 7:34 PM

Ooh, what wonderful comments!

Frank, I love how you went beyond traditional book reviews and threaded these together. I loved Push and The Glass Castle – I would have to put both in my Top 20. Just honesty that came alive. Always so glad to have you on TJCC. Made my day.

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frank February 3, 2010 at 7:50 PM

Thanks, Laura,
I really appreciate the opportunity. It’s always fun. I hope readers will enjoy these books and don’t forget to come back and report on them. It’s great to hear what other readers think.

thanks again,
Frank

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Andrea February 5, 2010 at 11:26 PM

Frank, I was intrigued by your recommendation for John Fante and started reading the first chapter of Arturo Bandini’s Los Angeles life (thank goodness for Amazon’s sneak peek, as the book itself is hard to come by). Poetic prose for a city and an era lost…it made me want to see that version of Los Angeles (odd since I am not too fond of the one that exists today).

That glimpse of Arturo meshed with what I know of Precious and Jeannette leads me to suspect that you are attracted to characters who given their hardships and obstacles, should have succumbed to their surroundings but instead moved forward. Driven by an internal something to step beyond their personal war zone toward normalcy outside.

So, no sap reading sad stories just a kind human being cheering for the underdog as they learn to change their perspective in the face of adversity.

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frank February 6, 2010 at 10:36 PM

Thanks, Andrea, for posting your thoughts. You are right. There’s just something about these people and their drive to do better and live better, despite their circumstances, that really speaks to me. And when it seems authentic, like with Fante and the books mentioned here, it’s just a bonus. I think Ask the Dust was the first time I really experienced whatever this joy is…and that’s why his work means so much to me. Another writer who seems to be able to affect me this way is Knut Hamsun, who was clearly an influence on Fante and Bukowski.
It’s so great to hear your thoughts on this.
Thanks again for taking the time to post.
Frank

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June February 10, 2010 at 4:46 PM

I haven’t read any of the books, but I certainly am interested after taking a peek at the reviews. I did see the movie Precious. Though I guess some might think it sad, I interpreted the theme as more of triumphing over adversity, being able to pull from the depths within to overcome the odds.

Thanks for the post. Now I have three more books to read!

June.
.-= June´s last blog ..Keep your eyes open for this one! THE ETERNAL ONES: A Book Review =-.

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frank February 12, 2010 at 3:05 PM

Thanks, June. I agree. I can’t wait to read your thoughts on these books…I picked these 3 because my wife found them particularly sad and because I particularly enjoyed them :)

Thanks for taking the time to read this post and share in the conversation. I really appreciate it.

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Laura March 9, 2010 at 8:05 AM

Frank – thanks again for your awesome post – looks like everyone loved it (not surprised!) Hope to see you on here again soon!

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